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All Behavior is Communication
Introduction:
In this lesson, we’ll explore the idea that all behavior, especially in children, is a form of communication. By learning to decode your child’s behavior, you can understand their emotions and needs, which in turn helps cultivate positive behavior and strengthens your relationship.
Task 1: Reflecting on Your Child’s Behavior
1. Think about a recent moment when your child acted out in a way that you found inconvenient. What do you think they were trying to communicate through that behavior?
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2. How did you respond?
Do you think your response addressed the underlying feeling or need behind their behavior?​
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3. How can you guide your child toward expressing their feelings and needs in more convenient ways?
Task 2: Reflecting on Your Own Behavior
1. How do you typically respond to stress or conflict in your own life?
2. Do you think your child mirrors any of your behaviors when they’re upset or stressed? If so, which ones?
3. How can you model more positive ways to handle stress and emotions for your child?
Task 3: Cultivating Positive Behavior and Setting Boundaries
1. Respecting children’s emotions is important. How can you validate your child’s feelings without neglecting necessary boundaries?
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2. Think of a specific situation where your child’s behavior crossed a boundary. How can you set clear, firm boundaries while remaining respectful of their emotions?
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3. What steps can you take to be more mindful of how your behavior influences your child’s actions?
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Final Reflection
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1. How has this lesson changed your perspective on your child’s behavior? Do you now see it as communication rather than defiance?
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2. What can you do in the coming weeks to improve how you decode your child’s behavior and respond in a way that helps them express their needs more effectively?
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Progress Tracker
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Use this section to evaluate your progress in understanding your child’s behavior as communication and how your own behavior influences theirs
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Quantitative Tracking
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1. How often were you able to decode your child’s behavior and respond to the underlying emotion or need this week?
On a scale of 1-5 (1 = Rarely, 5 = Frequently):
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2. How successful were you in guiding your child toward more convenient ways of expressing their feelings?
On a scale of 1-5 (1 = Rarely successful, 5 = Very successful):
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3. How confident do you feel about modeling positive behavior for your child to mirror? On a scale of 1-5 (1 = Not confident, 5 = Very confident):
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Qualitative Tracking
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1. What was the most significant insight you had while reflecting on your child’s behavior this week?
2. What changes did you notice in how your child communicated their needs or feelings when you responded differently?
​3. How did you feel about your own behavior after reflecting on how it influences your child?